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Hi, I'm Krzysztof and I make websites.
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Jan 1, 2012 / 12:40pm

What the science of human nature can teach us

Erica was impressed by him: women everywhere tend to prefer men who have symmetrical features and are slightly older, taller, and stronger than they are. But she was more guarded and slower to trust than Harold was. That’s in part because, while Pleistocene men could pick their mates on the basis of fertility cues discernible at a glance, Pleistocene women faced a more vexing problem. Human babies require years to become self-sufficient, and a single woman in that environment could not gather enough calories to provide for a family. She was compelled to choose a man not only for insemination but for continued support. That’s why men leap into bed more quickly than women.

2 millions years of human evolution, all the culture and philosophy – and now I'm being told that it was all in vain? God damn you, New Yorker!

Filed under: happiness   psychology   relationships  
Aug 13, 2010 / 12:03am

“My husband is a programmer; I have no idea what that means.”

Often I’ll get a response along these lines: “Programming? My husband does something like that I think.” To which I always inquire, “Oh really? What language does he work with?” Their response is always the same: “Language? huh. I have no idea. There’s more than one? I don’t really know what he does. I don’t pay attention to that stuff.”

This always blows my mind. You’re married to someone, and you aren’t interested enough in the person to know anything about what they do with nearly 40-50% of their time, aside from their job title? Is it dangerous to draw a correlation between high divorce rates and the lack of interest that people have in their partners lives?

The advice sounds obvious and is surely healthy, though I'm afraid that using this approach for filtering potential mates will most likely end up in a life of singledom.

Filed under: nerds   relationships  
Apr 4, 2010 / 3:45pm

Mortality and Dating » Path Dependent

As mentioned previously on my blog, I had a rare type of cancer for which there is still no cure. I was treated surgically to remove the macro-tumor, but microscopic remnants undoubtedly remain and, after enough doubling, it will reassert a claim on my health. Things are not likely to end well. Given this, I arrived at my dating conundrum.

A man diagnosed with cancer shares his dilemmas about dating.

Filed under: health   relationships  
Apr 3, 2010 / 10:55pm

Architecture awards and relationships

The book “How Buildings Learn: What Happens After They're Built” explains how architecture awards judge the building on how it looks before the people move in, forgetting the importance of that building's ability to adapt and grow with the needs of the people inside.
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Derek Sivers' reflections on his wedding day.

Filed under: architecture   relationships